Relationships and Their Struggles

Hello everyone! My name is Ailanna Ledé, welcome to my blog and today is my 20th birthday. Today I am offering is advice about relationships and its struggles. I would like to say thank you for taking the time to read this post and thank you for supporting me on my endeavors. Be sure to share this post with anyone if you would like if not, then that’s fine too. In the meantime, enjoy the latest post and have a great rest of your day.

Relationships are either a good thing or a bad thing. It depends on the person that you are in the relationship with or thinking about getting into a relationship with. They are filled with ups and downs. I have been in my fair share of relationships.  I’ve had some good relationships others not too much. Every relationship is meant to be learned from.

I’m not a relationship expert. I’m in a relationship myself and it has been a very good relationship so far. I cannot complain.  My previous relationships were okay in my opinion. I have made improvements since being in those relationships. I have made some mistakes while in those relationships. It is how you learn from it, that matters so that you don’t make that same mistake again.

Relationships are and should be 50/50. They will come with sacrifices and conflicts. They are meant to be able to grow with one another. Not every relationship or partnership is perfect just like saying not every person is perfect. They come with trials, tribulations, struggles, infidelity, temptation, lies, deception but it is how you and your partner get through them that should matter. 

You either could find yourself in a long-distance relationship or not. Long distance relationships can be hard. It is how you both handle the relationships. Communication is key for the both of you in that relationship because communication makes the relationship stronger. Take the relationship slow and get to know each other better so you can see if that person is the one for you. 

Love in a relationship is something that needs to be learned not rushed. Love is also a word to not use lightly. Love is a word that you have to learn the real meaning of and what it means to you. 

Make time for each other when you both can, and you both have time in your schedule. Try to remember the small things, try to not dwell on the big things so much, do not punish each other or punish him or her for not remembering the small things. Make as much memories as you can with each other because you may never know when that person may leave from your life. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life.

Lying is not good for any relationship so is not keeping secrets from each other. Secrets can eat you alive if you believe that saying or not. Infidelity is not good either because when you do that, it can cause the other person in the relationship hurt, it can strain the relationship and break the trust that you have established with your partner. 

Do not play with each other or with the other person’s feelings because it causes the other person to be hurt. Temptation will come and go and don’t give into it. It will be easy not to give into it. Do not manipulate each other. Do not blindside one another. Do not hurt each other on purpose or intentionally. Don’t forget to be an authentic version of yourself with each other or with that person that you may find yourself in that relationship with.

Try to not tell a lot of people about your relationship and its problems. You may have people that may act like they are for relationship, but they really are not. Do not let anyone break up or come between your relationship with your significant other. 

Treating one another once in a while is not a bad thing either. One day that you and that person could go out with each other for dinner one night, you could pay for the dinner, or your significant other could. Surprising each other with gifts to make each other feel special or to show appreciation towards one another once in a while is good as well. Trust me when I say that the small things count and make a huge difference in the relationship.

Don’t forget to be an authentic version of yourself with each other or with that person that you may find yourself in that relationship with. Don’t forget to also love yourself first!

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” 

― Bob Marley